If the world was divided into leaders and followers, it is said that only 10 per cent of the population would choose to take on the responsibilities of a leader. And in that 10 per cent, an even smaller number will turn into good leaders. The other 90 per cent won’t have any qualms about being told what to do.
That being said, good leaders aren’t born, they are made over the course of time. This was the aim of the eighth annual Leadership Training Camp for College Students, which was arranged by Palkhivala Foundation, Nani Palkhivala Arbitration Centre and Forum for Free Enterprise, at Ethiraj College for Women — turning students into leaders who will impact society in a positive way.
The two-day event, held over the weekend, was headed by leadership trainers Vivek Patki and Sachin Kamath. After dividing the participants into two groups, each trainer took his turn to discuss the various aspects that make a good leader. Patki, in fact, said it was more a facilitation than a talk because, “It’s important for the participants to come up with answers on their own. We are just the catalyst for change, the observers,” he said.
In total, there were six topics of discussion: communication skill, self-esteem, time management, goal setting, team work and self management. Neatly woven to maximise understanding, the camp started with Patki talking about effective ways to communicate and Kamath on the importance of understanding oneself.
‘What is communication?’
According to Patki, who sprinkled his discussions with wit, humour and anecdotes, communication is a continuous engagement in an effort to create understanding. Along the way, this engagement turns effective and persuasive. “The six processes of communication are: speaking, listening, writing, reading, non-verbal communication, and observing and interpreting this non-verbal communication. Not everyone is good at all of them, but when they do learn them, they become good leaders,” he explained.
In particular, Patki emphasised on understanding and interpreting non-verbal communication. Voice modulation, stage presence, body language, eye contact and reacting to an audience are some of the subjects he touched upon.
“Unless you make it known, your audience isn’t likely to know if you forget your talk, make a mistake or are nervous. They understand that it’s challenging to speak on stage, so it’s just a matter of how confident you are. If you are relying on notes, don’t feel guilty about it,” he said, reassuring apprehensive students. “You should be like Narendra Modi when it comes to voice modulation and Manmohan Singh with regards to education!” he added, much to the delight of his audience.
Communication isn’t just talking, but includes the art of listening as well, he said. “Listen to a person with an open mind and keep your biases aside. Don’t create distractions when they are talking, like shaking your feet continuously. We think at about 450 words per minute but talk at 120 words per minute so don’t go on a picnic while the speaker catches up,” he added.
A seasoned speaker, he left an impact on the students through his modules on communication, time management and self-management.
‘Value yourself’
Kamath, in his talks on self-esteem, team work and setting goals, touched on a more emotional side of becoming a good leader. With everyday references and charm, he narrated his journey over the years. From a dismissive last-bencher in college to a proactive and confident citizen, he has travelled a long way and insists that he is still learning.
“The value of things is subjective, so why should you let others, who barely know you, judge you? You know yourself better than anyone else. As the saying goes, ‘yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery and today is a gift’. If you weren’t aware of an aspect of yourself before and you are now, it shouldn’t hinder your development. It’s important to believe in you,” he said.
He added, “The quality of life depends on the quality of questions you ask yourself. Don’t compare yourself with other people. Set your own benchmark. Be selfish when it comes to getting knowledge and generous when it comes to giving it. After all, it’s the skills you acquire that will pay your bills; your income is dependent on how well you understand yourself and how much you learn.”
At the end of the day-one, students were inspired and found the leader in them budding. Unlike other such talks, this camp was self-motivational and made participants question everything around them, including (and especially) themselves.